And the Nominees Are . . . Marriage Story

Posted by Anna Keating on Feb 3, 2020 8:30:00 PM
Anna Keating

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Editorial Note: The following is an excerpt from an essay entitled A Story of Divorce as Self-Realization originally published by Church Life Journal on January 13, 2020. This review contains spoilers.

I cannot stop thinking about Noah Baumbach’s film, Marriage Story, starring Adam Driver as Charlie, and Scarlett Johansson as his soon to be ex-wife Nichole. Real marriages, marriages of equals that have lasted more than a handful of years, not sitcom marriages played for laughs, are rarely given this much attention on the silver screen. It is perhaps difficult to capture the little moments that make up a shared life, but Baumbach captures them beautifully. Here is Nichole cutting Charlie’s hair. Here is Charlie cooking her dinner, or opening up the blankets so their son, Henry, can be comforted after a bad dream.

In a country where a million people file for divorce every year there are surprisingly few films about it in which neither partner gets turned into a cartoon villain or quickly written out of the script. In Marriage Story there are no villains, just two very imperfect humans struggling to find their “aliveness” and a sense of worth. . . . 

The writing is excellent and you see in their fights how people who know one another on a cellular level can so easily use that knowledge in order to wound each other. In quieter moments you get glimpses of how they might have been happy together, had they decided to pull in the same direction. . . .  

In terms of worldly success, both Charlie and Nichole get the brass ring, immediately after separating. In this way, Baumbach has written a love letter to divorce. Once free of one another, Charlie and Nichole become ultra-successful in all the ways they had wanted to be, but could not quite be as a couple. Autonomy and individualism for the win.

This part of the film feels like a fantasy, one that anyone who ever has been burned out by caring for other people has occasionally indulged. . . .

In Marriage Story, Baumbach turns the escapist fantasy into reality . . . but it feels a little like a Faustian bargain. If hurting your family, and almost losing them totally, meant your art would be in the MOMA, your column in the New York Times, your film nominated for an Academy Award, your fictionalized autobiography in every bookstore, would you do it? And should you do it? A society, like ours, which sees unpaid labor in service of others as a kind of slavery might say “Yes.” . . . 

I have written about the fact that some marriages do need to end, and their ending really is a chance at a new and better beginning. Yet, Marriage Story left me wondering, if Charlie and Nichole had one of those marriages, or if they should have been able to apply a tiny bit of the creativity they applied to their professional lives to their life together. Maybe they could have become better versions of themselves, not necessarily more successful, but better human beings nonetheless?

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Topics: Culture, Academy Awards, divorce, Best Picture nominees, marriage, Oscars, Marriage Story

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